One of the recent things that has come to the forefront causing more and more spotlights to shine upon it is "marriage". Public icons private matters in their marriages are shining brightly in current events. To no fault of the innocent who rises early to turn on the TV, or to the one who enjoys listening to the radio, or to the one who surfs the net. The media has sensationalized private matters by bringing it to public homes. Infidelity is becoming like a household word, it grabs no matter the color of the skin, the age, the financial status. It's grip is a death grip that effects all who comes into contact with it, including our seeds (our children) who carry our future! When will we come to the knowledge that the things that we do, not only effect us but cause a ripple affect on the generations who follow. It is selfish of one to allow a momentary lustful infraction to destroy the foundation on which their marriage should have been built, "commitment".
Which brings us to the question; why does mankind get married in the first place? Is it for the convenience of having someone to cook and clean or to be the provider? Is it for the convenience of the name and public status? Is it a political move of notoriety? Is it for financial gain? Is it because one feels their biological clock is winding to the end of time? Is it just for companionship to avoid loneliness, which leads to an empty home filled with lost love. Or maybe it's the cover up for the shame of ones dilemmas?
What happened to getting married because of love and a desire to be committed to one person unto death do they part? What happened to the commitment?
To be committed means to be reliable, trustworthy. In a marriage every person pledges a commitment to the other. To pledge it is to commit oneself to a promise. What promise? To love, honor, cherish, and remain faithful unto him/her til life vacates that person. When one commits to another on that special day at that moment, one entrust themselves to another for safekeeping. One entrust their heart, mind, their time, their emotions, and their future. While stating vows no one ever says that their commitment is for a limited space of time, except the time of death! What happened to the pledge of commitment?
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Passionately written,
Mike & Carolyn
